Are these the stages of healing?

The fact that you have seek-ed help is already part of your healing process. It's a long way to go and there are many mountains to climb, but you are on your way. When you are abused as a child you also have to go through the stages of grief. There are 4 stages. And those will take time, it's hard to say how much time. At the last stage you are able to say goodbye to to child and welcome the adult inside you. When you are able to do this, (this is a very emotional exercise and can be done as a role play with the empty chair) you will be freed from the prison you're living in. I spend 1 year with my therapist and it was like going through hell, worse than the actual abuse, because I went through the motions of all the feelings I had hide deep inside me. Than I had group therapy, but it took all together nearly 15 years before I was able to forgive my perpetrators and myself.